Tips on Grief

At Simplicity Funerals we know grief is a normal way of reacting to loss, and can involve mental, physical, social, or emotional reactions. People cope with loss in many ways, especially the loss of a loved one.

20 Simple things you can do to help someone those first few days

  1. Offer to pick up family members from the airport that are coming for the funeral.
  2. Offer an extra bedroom to out-of-town family members or friends.
  3. Bring folding chairs and tables to the home, they are easy to set up and take down as needed.
  4. Ask if they would like you to reply to any text or voicemail messages on their behalf.
  5. Bring small packs of tissues to the funeral.
  6. Bring large umbrellas to the funeral.
  7. Bring ice in an esky for drinks and fill with water bottles and single serve soft drinks.
  8. Offer to drive grieving people where they need to go. Deep grief can impair driving and concentration. Be willing to wait for them while they finalise funeral arrangements.
  9. Clean the house. Ask if you can do a load of washing or take home a basket of ironing.
  10. Mow the lawn. Sweep. Rake leaves. Tidy flower beds.
  11. Bring toilet paper. Paper towels. Paper plates. Napkins. All the things you need when there are extra people in the house.
  12. If one or more of the bereaved people is a carer, offer to take over that responsibility for a time.
  13. Take children to the park or out for ice cream if they are comfortable leaving their parents. 
  14. Clean the family’s car before the funeral.
  15. Take the dogs for regular walks.
  16. Offer to drive the family or out-of-town relatives to the funeral and home again. 
  17. Cook meals. Bring them in ready to heat dishes or plastic containers for freezing. And don’t expect them to be returned.
  18. Offer to take clothes to the drycleaners and pick up in time for the funeral.
  19. Offer to be the one who sits with and takes care of toddlers at the funeral, allowing the parents to focus their attention on the ceremony
  20. Stay in touch. Experience tells us that after the funeral is over, visitors and offers of help decline quickly. This is a time when help around the house, ongoing support and a listening ear can be much appreciated.

My Grief Assist

MyGriefAssist is an online resource that provides further helpful information on grief and loss. In the exclusive video feature 'Coping with your grief' by Doris Zagdanski the journey of grief is beautifully described complimented with photography and music.

For more comprehensive information on grief, you can visit the MyGriefAssist website.

Simplicity Grief Workshops

Across Australia Simplicity funeral homes arrange for information sessions on Coping with Grief.

Grief and loss are not well understood emotions and to help the community understand them, we share our experiences with members of the public.

These information sessions are either workshops delivered to small groups, or they are larger forums with a panel of experts, with each providing information from their area of expertise.

Which ever one you attend, you will find practical information on:

  1. putting your own grief in context
  2. managing your grief and other emotions
  3. tips of what can help during this difficult time, and
  4. how to talk to and support people going through grief.

People who have attended Simplicity Funerals Coping with Grief information sessions have said the following:

"Thank you for including me in your seminar to help me deal with the loss of my husband."

"It was excellent and filled a void in the community. I am grateful to be here."

"Very valuable for my personal situation and loss, as well as how to deal with grief,"

"The seminar was far more informative and helpful than I anticipated. It answered a lot of my questions."

Simplicity Funerals also provides seminar sessions on topics such as:

  • Estate planning
  • The role of a funeral director, and
  • Dispelling myths about funerals.

Where to go for help

There are many local community organisations that will provide support, as well as some larger well known organisations that work throughout Australia. These include:

  • Lifeline 13 11 14
  • The Salvation Army Counselling Service (all states) 1300 363 622
  • Kids' Helpline 1800 551 800
  • Grief Support 02 9489 6644
  • Care Ring (VIC) 13 61 69
  • Community Services Departments of all state governments
  • Victims of Crime Departments of all state governments

If you would like a Simplicity funeral director to come and provide tips to your group about Coping with Grief, call us now on:

1300 556 222

The information in this section contains some extracts from “Now that the funeral is over - understanding the effects of grief” by Doris Zagdanski copyright 1993. They are reproduced with kind permission of the author.

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